What makes a person?
What makes them who they are?
When discussing people,
You can say you get this vibe from them
Or that you think that this person is a type of person. Like a cheery person.
You describe someone as cheery because they are happy people. But they won't always be happy all the time.
So then are they cheery-a-person?
All the words we describe people with are adjectives which are pretty much actions personified. Thus, what makes us, us? If the I that you think you know was made on a basis of observation of a person, does that make your judgement of them who they really are?
No, a cheery person is cheery because they express cheeriness because that is the way they feel, or choose to act based on an emotion or decision.
But that still doesn't answer why that person is like that, does it?
Or is it that you really, really know that person and their patterns/habits/preferences?
Because you've got to admit it, you can say that you THINK you know that person, but how can you know for certain that you know them?
Like in the case of high school shootings, an extreme example i know but you here the comments, 'who knew this would happen' or 'it took us all by surprise'.
But then again is it because they were social isolates that no one knew them well enough.
Or what of suicides, you just never know sometimes what people are going through internally, even if they live with you or socialize in the very same circles.
I believe no one really knows for certain, coz if you think about it, knowing about yourself is hard enough let alone anyone else?
So back to the patterns, do people have a prefererential mode of action or modus operandi? Do they have an ultimatum of an MO that fully allowed to act freely will choose the same path again and again?
What about defining yourself as you see fit you say? What about it? How would you describe yourself if you remove all possible influences that may sway your answer? I don't know about you, but I find it hard to describe myself without a relative situation.
As easily as you can describe yourself as a set of norms in a particular situation and then further elaborate that you are different in different situations hence unique, then what part of you is really unique?
Think about it, I'm sorry to break it to you, your aren't special. I always believed so, that i was unlike anyone else, that know one could really know me for who i am because they havent seen you in every possible situation.
This was obviously reinforced by the fact that my sister doesn't even fully understand me and she's been around me my whole life, nor my mother or father. Exasperation it is, really when they think they know you and put you in a box. Mind you I really have tried to fit in that box too, but occasionally there will be an overspill.
And the greatest pain is disappointment I guess that you aren't that easily allowed to be who you are, as much as you try to convince yourself so. But the retort to that is obviously that you can! You can do what you want! Disregard what they will think of you and be selfish, be you for yourself!
Oh those words, they sound so sweet. But, what is the point if it hurts the ones around, you're back to choosing who you are based on whether you could stand to hurt the ones you have concern for and where does that take you? A decision of who you are based on how you act, BASED on a SITUATION - situation being whether your choice will be approved.
And if it isn't an opposing situation? If you want to do it and it's approved? Well are you doing it cos it is approved? Do you enjoy the task at hand, or is it that you enjoy basking in the approval of a chosen decision?
There are a cultural set of expected norms that are known by the society of how one should act given any social situation. Mix this in with knowledge of such actions and a random situation that is given and you get uncertainty. Be a fact finder or impulse initiator, you either revert to your norms, seek advice or react in the first possible way known.
So when you ask someone why they did what they did n they replied that 'i don't know, it was instinct I guess' I begs you to question what are the sources of this 'instinct'? Is this instinct you? Or is it ingrained into everyone? Do you choose to act on instinct?
I don't know.
I don't know anything anymore.
Did I even at the start?
- Del
